From the dusty archive of antique descriptions we don’t hear much anymore:
Genteel (jen-teel)/adj. From the Middle French gentil = gentle. a: Having an aristocratic quality or flavor; stylish. b: of or relating to the gentry or upper class c: elegant or graceful in manner, appearance, or shape
It all sounds very Downton Abbey. Is “genteel” a word you ever find occasion to use? Do you know anyone personally who fits the description?
I don’t often see it in English, although, since I read historical fiction quite often, I do come across it.
In Italian we use a similar word ‘signorile’ (‘gentile’ means kind), which is not uncommon.